Finding Your Leather Tribe: Leathermen Speak Out on Authenticity, Self-acceptance and Brotherhood

Feel confident walking into your first leather bar, and know exactly where to find your people, at home or abroad.

"Authentic tales of that second coming out... perfect for travel adventures and quiet reflection alike."
-Jack Fritscher, Editor Emeritus, Drummer Magazine

More than 50 years ago, Larry Townsend wrote that most gay men come out once, but leathermen come out twice, first to their sexuality, and again to their fetish. Finding Your Leather Tribe continues that conversation, exploring what it means to live that second coming out with pride, honesty and heart.

This book brings together those stories, along with practical resources, to help you feel seen, supported and connected to a leather community of your own.

This comprehensive guide combines intimate personal stories from leathermen across more than a dozen countries with practical resources you can use today. You'll find a curated directory of leather and kink bars, events, social groups and retailers organised by location, plus essential readings on leather history and culture.

This book is for you if you're:A gay man curious about leather and kink, unsure where to start in your own city.
A seasoned leatherman or kinkster who wants vetted, welcoming spaces when you travel.
Someone who values the history, culture and traditions of gay leather and wants to feel part of that lineage.

Inside you'll discover:Real coming out stories. 24 deeply personal accounts of gay men coming out twice, first as gay, then into leather. These journeys come from leathermen across more than a dozen countries.
A comprehensive global directory. 150+ leather and kink social groups, bars, events, parties and retailers across Europe, the United Kingdom, North America and Australia, curated to help you find kink friendly, queer affirming spaces.
History and culture made accessible. A grounded exploration of leather history and culture, along with 15+ carefully selected further readings so you can deepen your understanding of the gay leather and kink community at your own pace.
A worldwide destination index. 60+ destinations to help you connect with leather and kink communities just about anywhere.
Practical confidence boosts. Guidance woven through the stories and resources helps you feel less anxious about your first visit, or your next one, to a leather bar or event. You'll find what to expect, how to navigate consent and etiquette, and how to stay safe while having fun.