Cathy McQuaid is a bereaved mother. She is also a researcher, psychotherapy supervisor, and trainer. She decided to use her skills to undertake a research project to help her understand her own grief and the responses and behaviours of those around her. This book is the outcome of that research.

Introduction; Part I; 1: We are forever changed by this experience; 2: "Stillbirth is such a taboo subject": Claire¿s story remembering her daughter Emilie; 3: "How many children do you have? It's just something I hate": John¿s story remembering his daughter Emilie; 4: "There was this crowd of women all wailing":Elisäs story remembering her daughter Ellen; 5: "Nobody foresaw that she would die so quickly":Joanne¿s story remembering her daughter Rebecca; 6: "Goodbye, have a good evening, take care": Juliäs story remembering her daughter Pippa; 7: "I'm sorry to say he's dead": Steffy¿s story remembering her son Jason and her brother Matthew; 8: "They laughed at me and said, you've got to be joking":Nancy¿s story remembering her daughter Angel; 9: "I think I was in shock for a year": Carol¿s story remembering her son David; 10: "Tell mum not to worry. I'm going to the pure land": Susan¿s story Remembering her son Michael; 11: "What more could we have done?": Wilf and Kath¿s story remembering their son Michael; 12: "Her horror penetrated me": John¿s story remembering his brother Jamie; 13: "They¿re just living in their lovely little bubble and my bubble burst":Rose¿s story remembering her older sister Lizzie; 14: "Everything was coming together for him": Shireen¿s story remembering her brother Tariq; 15: "Don¿t judge my life on the chapter that you came in on": Beth¿s story remembering her brother Jim; 16: "Jacky was my most significant security base": Edward¿s story remembering his brother Jacky; 17: "I think you have a sister": Sally¿s story remembering her sister Rose; 18: The ABC of grief; 19: Living with loss; 20: Transformational loss; Part II; 21: Models of grief and bereavement; 22: Transgenerational loss andFamily Constellations; 23: Resilience, grief, and grief disorder; 24: Protection and self knowledge; 25: Creative ways of working with loss.