Richard F. Groves and Henriette Anne Klauser

CONTENTS

Preface to the Paperback Edition - viii

Introduction - 1


Part I. The History
Hospice

The Original Hospice: The Art of Dying Well - 13

A Vision from the Past: God’s Hotel - 14

Our Cultural Bias: Death Is the Enemy - 17

Hospice in America: Gift and Challenge - 19

Ancient Books of the Dead

The Heritage - 21

• Egyptian Book of the Dead: A Greater Light
• Celtic Books of the Dead: Spiritual Midwifery
• Gnostic Books for the Living and Dying: Bridge between East and West
• Tibetan Book of the Dead: Coaching the Soul
• Monastic Books of the Dying: Prescriptive Care

What the Books of the Dead Have in Common: Lessons for Us Today - 34

Spiritual Pain

Pain versus Suffering: The Human Condition - 37

Diagnosing Spiritual Pain: Asking Courageous Questions - 39

Responding to Spiritual Pain: A Psychospiritual Relationship - 42

• Meaning Pain: The Painful-Blissful Encounter with the Truth
• Forgiveness Pain: The Common Cold of Spiritual Pain
• Relatedness Pain: Leaving the Familiar Behind
• Hopelessness Pain: Death as Healer

Becoming an Anamcara - 55

• Ten Commandments for the Anamcara

Part II. The Stories
Annie: the Perfectionist
Will you love me even if I get it wrong? - 63

Henry: the Helper
Will you love me even if I can’t love you back? - 81

Sara: the Achiever
Will you love me even if I am not successful? - 95

Heather: the Dreamer
Will you love me even if you know who I am? - 111

Park: the Thinker
Will you love me even if I lose everything in life? - 125

Maria Elena: the Loyalist
Will you love me even if I break the rules? - 143

Andrew: the Adventurer
Will you love me even if I cry? - 159

Dorothy: the Asserter
Will you love me even if I am weak? - 175

Larry: the Peacemaker
Will you love me even if I disagree with you? - 189

Story Archetypes - 202

Part III. The Tool Chest
Art Therapy - 205

Breath Work - 209

Coma Therapy - 213

Dream Work - 218

Energy Therapies - 223

Forgiveness Exercises - 227

Guided Visualization - 231

Healing and Assistance from Ancestors - 236

Healing Religious Abuse and Images of God - 240

Intercessory (Nonlocal) Prayer - 244

Journaling - 248

Life Review Exercises - 252

Meditation Practices - 257

Music Therapy - 262

Religious Rites and Sacred Writings - 267

Rituals for the Bedside - 270

Rituals of Release - 273

Vigil Rituals and Rituals for Remembering - 277

Bibliography - 285

About the Authors - 294