Dr. Gloria G. Brame is the lead author of Different Loving. A poet, journalist, and novelist, Brame has contributed articles to Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Working Woman, and Maxim. She can be contracted at [...].

Contents

CHAPTER ONE:

Introductory Kink

Kinky Confessional • Basic Sexual Rights • The Five Fallacies of Kinky Sex •

CHAPTER TWO:

What's Your Kink Quotient?

Know Thy Kinky Self • The Kink Quotient Quiz •

CHAPTER THREE:

The Kink in All of Us

What's Normal? • Are You Ready to Explore? • "Ready...or Not?" Quiz • Just Say Maybe • Eight Talking Points on Kinky Sex • When Your Partner Is Hostile: Dr. Brame's One-Question Wonder Quiz • Four Steps to Kinky Romance • Fluffy Stuff • How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Whip • How to Eroticize Anything • Kink and God: The Spiritual Conflict •

CHAPTER FOUR:

Getting Involved

Kink and the Single Pervert • Getting Kinky • Ye Olde Subtle Hintes • A Word About Timing • Playing It Safe and Keeping It Consensual • Where to Go, Who to Do • Before Stepping Out: A Short Guide to Social Etiquette •

CHAPTER FIVE:

Erotic Bondage

Is Bondage Wrong? • What Makes Bondage Sexy? • The Five Top Reasons Why People Love Bondage • Prisoners of Love • The Five Top Captivity Fantasies • Bondage Tips and Techniques • Clamps, Cuffs, and Crosses: A Basic Guide to Bondage Toys • Fifteen Ways to Tease Your Tied-Up Lover • Bondage Nevers •

CHAPTER SIX:

Erotic Pain

How Can Anything That Hurts Be Good? • Good Pain vs. Bad Pain • How to Take Your Lover from Pain to Pleasure: Five Tips • Can I Be Submissive If I Don't Like Pain? • Safety, Safety, Safety and, in Case You Weren't Listening, Safety! • Top Torture Toys and Techniques •

CHAPTER SEVEN:

Fetishes

What's a Fetish? • A Fetish Is Alive! • Fetish Tales • A Catalogue of Fetishes •

CHAPTER EIGHT:

Role-Play and Lifestyle Relationships

Section One: Role-Play FAQ • Section Two: Roundup of Roles and Role-Based Relationships •

CHAPTER NINE:

Transgenderism: The Second Self

What's in a Gender? • Transvestite or Transsexual? • Common Concerns of TVs and Some Advice • Quick Questions from Partners of TVs • The Three Big Headaches of Being a TV • Tips on Teasing a TV •

CHAPTER TEN:

Power Relationships

What Are Power Relationships? • Should Parents in Lifestyle Power Relationships Keep Their Kinks Hidden from Their Kids? • Is Coming Out to Your Relatives a Good Idea? •

CHAPTER ELEVEN:

The View from the Top: Sexual Dominants

The Fictional Dominant vs. the Human Dominant • A Note to Gay/Lesbian Readers • Key Qualities of Great Dominants • What's in a Name? Typing Your Topness • Trust: The Key to Joyful Obedience • Emotional Temperature-Taking • Myths That Need to Go Away • Three Flavors of Femdoms • Female Dominance: Oxymoron or Redundancy? • How to Punish a Masochist • It's the Perks, Darling!: Five Cool Things About Being a Bitch for Female Dominants • The Five Worst Things About Being a Heterosexual Male Dominant • Psychological Dominance • Six Easy Ways to Relax Your Submissive • What's So Funny About Kinky Sex? • A Few Tips to Spice Up Your Psychodrama • It's the Perks, Darling!: Five Fun Things About Being a Bastard for Male Dominants •

CHAPTER TWELVE:

The View from the Bottom: Sexual Submissives

The Submissive Stigma • Slave, Submissive, Masochist, or Bottom? • If I'm a Slave, Do I Live in a Cage? • Are You Being Abused? • Public Etiquette for Submissives • The Uncollared Sub • Finding a Ringmaster in a World of Clowns • Ten Stupid Things That Femsubs Do to Screw Up Their Lives • Signs That the Dom Is Dangerous • Sweet Services to Please a Dominant • In Search of HER • To See or Not to See (A Prodom) •

CHAPTER THIRTEEN:

Kinky Facts, Follies, and Fun

Reviewing the Rules • Data to Digest • Four Kinky Types to Watch Out For • Twenty High-Culture Kink Classics • Games Kinky Lovers Can Play: Twisted Torturous Trivia Quiz • Kinky Reading List •

APPENDIX:

Speaking the Kinky Lingo

A Glossary of Scene Slang

INDEX